The decision to end a long-term relationship often doesn’t happen overnight. The reasons to leave could be anything from growing apart, falling out of love, a lack of emotional support, or a relationship that has become unhealthy. However, determining whether you should stay or should you go is rarely an easy one.
Are You Staying For The Right Reasons?
An excellent question to ask yourself is why you are staying. Financial security? Fear of being alone? To keep the family together? While these reasons are real, ask yourself if they are reasons you would want someone to stay with you.
Do You Believe You Deserve Love And Happiness?
Everyone deserves love and happiness, but if you have convinced yourself that you are an exception, then it’s time to get to work on your self-esteem. Life is meant to be filled with love, and you won’t find your true love until you learn to love yourself.
Is Your Relationship Unhealthy?
No relationship is perfect, and there are some rough patches where one or both of you has major areas of opportunity. However, if your relationship has always been or has become unhealthy, it’s time to go. This includes everything from:
- Verbal abuse
- Emotional abuse
- Phycological abuse
- Physical abuse
Should you stay or should you go? This is a decision you must make for yourself, and the sooner the better. If you decide to stay and work through it, give yourself a clear deadline as to when enough is enough.