Are you looking for the love of your life? Frustrated that you haven’t met them yet? Or maybe it’s not romantic love you are looking for, but close friendship with true acceptance. If you find yourself looking for love everywhere, it’s time to look within. You must love yourself first.
You Deserve Love
If you find it easy to pinpoint all the reasons why you are unworthy of love, of all your flaws, quirks and mistakes—you may have subconsciously convinced yourself that you are unworthy. You are worthy. Everyone has flaws as and everyone deserves love. If love is sincere others will accept you as you are.
You Set The Expectations
When we need someone to validate and love us we often end up in unhealthy, or at the very least, unbalanced relationships. If a lack of love or self-esteem is apparent you are far more likely to attract someone who needs you to need them. If you find someone genuine and sincere, your lack of self-love will make it hard for you to accept their love—meaning you are more likely to create real or imagined relationship problems.
Genuine connection is one of the joys of life. If you find yourself lacking sincere friendships or a quality partner it’s time to do some self-healing. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown an excellent place to begin. Then its time to get to work expanding your social circle.