We are all guilty of it, some of us on occasion—some of us multiple times a day. Whether due to physical appearance, athletic performance, professional performance, or personal areas of opportunity it’s time to stop the negative self-talk once and for all.
Recognize The Negativity
Your negative self-talk may have become such a habit or pattern that you may not be aware of the frequency in which you are doing it. This means the first step is recognizing it. Since most of us are harder on ourselves than anyone else this can be trickier than it sounds. A good rule of thumb is to consider whether you would say it to someone you love or if you would want to hear your daughter, son, brother, sister or best friend saying it about themselves. Or, how would you feel if they said it to you?
Replace The Negativity
Once you determine how to identify your negative thought patterns, you must get to work replacing them. For every negative thing, you find your mind wandering to, replace it with two positive affirmations—or more. For example, if you think “I hate my thighs.” Follow it up with how you love your smile and how everyone compliments you on your beautiful fingernails.
It will take time and practice but once you replace your negative self-talk your self-esteem and entire approach to life will improve.