We’ve all heard the phrase, “When are you going to grow up and ‘settle down’.” It’s an age-old saying, but it’s no longer relevant. Here’s why.
It Implies They Are Wild, Crazy, Or Irresponsible
If that is what you think of someone, provide them with that feedback. However, most of the time someone is told they need to ‘settle down’ is because they have yet to marry, or have kids, or even stop job hopping. Maybe they have different plans. Plans that really aren’t any of your concern.
They Dare To Follow Their Bliss
When you tell someone to do what everyone else is doing with their life, you may unintentionally be insulting their life choices. Everyone has the right to respectfully live life on their own terms. Your need to point out someone’s differences, says more about you than it does about them.
You Are Probably Just Jealous
While telling someone to ‘settle down’ is a phrase passed down through the generations, it is also a phrase used to shame others into conformity. If the person you are offering unsolicited advice to is happier and more fulfilled than you, you are likely stating this as a way to find something wrong—as a way to mask your jealousy by stating what you have that they don’t.
At the end of the day, we all have ourselves to contend with—not the life path that those we love to expect us to follow.