If you love the idea of practicing gratitude but are struggling to find things to be personally grateful for, it may be that you haven’t yet accepted that you deserve to be happy. Here’s how to start the process of accepting the good that life brings your way, and overcoming your deservability issue.
We’ve Become Programmed To Find What Is Wrong
If you sit staring at your empty gratitude list, consider that this is due to your societal and maybe even your family-based belief system. If you grew up hearing things like, “Who do you think you are?”, “You must think you are special.”, “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”, or “What makes you think you can do that?” then you may have been programmed to believe that you don’t deserve more—and to only see the negative possibilities. For example, if a friend comes over to help you set up for your garage sale you could have a deservability issue if you find yourself thinking “What does she want from me?” Instead of “I’m so grateful to have such a thoughtful friend.”
Replace Your Negative Believe With A Positive Affirmation
Another thing you can do when a negative thought like the one above happens is to find the positive alternative. Also, get into the habit of finding a positive affirmation to repeat any time you find your mind wandering down an ungrateful path. Something as simple as “Happiness is my birthright” will do.
Last but not least, surround yourself with positive people who have the attitude of gratitude you are on your way too!