It’s a question most of us will ask at some point in our lives, but can you really be in love with someone who doesn’t love you back? Here’s what to consider.
Not If They Don’t Know You Exist
The guy you see every day at the coffee shop, a coworker who can’t recall your name, a celebrity or person you have never met in real life who you feel a connection to. We must not confuse attraction for love. If this is a person you can engage with in-person work up the courage to ask them out. If they aren’t interested, move on because this is not love, but lust or infatuation and you need to move on. If they are a celebrity or public figure accept that this is a crush, nothing more.
The Dead End Relationship
The only thing worse than being in a committed relationship with someone is staying because you think you can win them over. When someone really sees you and loves you for who you are you won’t have to invest so much energy in making it work. So why do they stay with you? Likely because they are comfortable and they enjoy the attention and support you provide. You deserve better though so you must know when to cut your losses.
If you have invested more than 6 months in a relationship that isn’t genuinely moving forward it’s time to think more than you feel so that you can find the mutually loving relationship you deserve.