It’s a situation we are all faced with to some degree, a strong dislike of someone in a social group we are part of. Whether a family member, partner of someone you get along with well, a member of a club, or someone in your tight social circle—you must find a way to deal.
Be Realistic
First up, anytime we are frustrated with someone we must remember that we too (often without knowing it) equally grate the nerves of others. If it’s due to the fact that you don’t agree with their opinions, work on finding common ground—otherwise, you run the risk of sorting yourself which has its own list of concerns.
Be Authentic But Be Kind
If your best friend’s new partner’s personality is like nails on a chalkboard it can be maddening. While being authentically you is the ultimate goal that doesn’t mean that you have the right to share every little thought about another person. You don’t have to like everyone and not everyone has to like you. If you need to keep your space during your time together. And always be cordial and be kind.
Weight The Pros And Cons Of Change
If things get so bad that you consider expressing your feelings, leaving the group or drastically reducing your time together—weigh the pros and cons. In most cases, but certainly, not all, it’s not worth losing your other friendships out of a dislike of just one person. You may be able to minimize group time and invest more time hanging out solo.
Last but not least, sometimes doing the opposite of what you first imagine might be the way to go. Maybe invite the person you don’t gel with for coffee or lunch as you might connect better one-on-one than in a group.
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