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The Things You Argue About In The Beginning Of Your Relationship Will Last A Lifetime

The Things You Argue About In The Beginning Of Your Relationship Will Last A Lifetime

It was an “aha moment” the first time I heard it said, and it’s rung true in both platonic and romantic relationships: the things you argue about it the beginning of your relationship are the things you will argue about your entire relationship.

What This Means For Your Relationship

First up, you must let go of the idea that you can change your loved one’s personality or mind. Once you accept that you cannot change them, you can work towards acceptance. This is not to say you agree with the behavior or belief, but that you acknowledge that it is not a good use of your time to try to change them. You don’t want them to change you either right?

Ask The Hard Question

Where things get tricky is respecting their differences for the long-term. Whether it’s an annoying habit, like leaving their towel, socks, or underwear on the floor or a major political difference—you must decide if it is something you can live with. Remember, differences are good so you have to weight the importance of your source of contempt. Ideally, you can agree to disagree on the topic and find a way to coexist by focusing more on your common ground. If it’s a true deal breaker, make a clean cut sooner rather than later.

None of this is said to be discouraging but to instead promote authenticity—while discouraging self-sorting.

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