In some relationships, it is something you recognize right away, in others it may take some time to identify. Or, the singular focus might just be short-term. Here’s what to do if you are in a one-sided relationship.
This step isn’t about judgment or psychoanalyzing the other person, but in considering the general why. Almost every relationship will have a period of time where you give more than you take, and take more than you give. For example, after a breakup or the death of a loved one. However, some relationships are never balanced. Instead of considering why someone else takes more than they give, consider if this is a relationship pattern that you have accepted. This could be in either or both your personal or professional life.
Decide What To Do
If your loved one is going through a challenging time be kind, loving, and patient. If it helps, recall times you have taken more than you’ve given. If the person you are in a relationship with is someone who has always taken more, you have 3 choices:
- Acceptance without the expectation of change
- Slowly let them fade way,
- Have a heartfelt conversation about how you feel.
If you opt for the heartfelt conversation it might sound something like, “I often feel like our conversations and time together is focused primarily on your life and would like to start working toward a more balanced relationship.” Their initial response is likely to be shock, but if they value your relationship they will take your words to heart—and sincerely try to do better.
Here’s to having the loving and healthy friend circle we require to be our best selves!