Cycle breakers are adults who are the first in their family to break free of their dysfunctional familial patterns. This might be abuse, control, neglect, shame, and more. Here’s how they break free.
There Is Not A One-Size-Fits-All Model
First up, there is no clear-cut one-size-fits-all method of breaking free. Some people are very intentional in their effort not to repeat the patterns that have become habits while others never adopted the habits and patterns to begin with. No matter which category you fall into you can break free.
Boundaries, Distance, Or Complete Removal
One thing is for sure, to truly break free you need to at least set boundaries with dysfunctional family members. This might include only seeing them on occasion, no more than once or twice per year. In some cases, the healthiest decision may be to completely eliminate one or more family members from your life. This is not due to a lack of forgiveness or inability to work through things, it is a choice to prioritize your health and wellbeing.
Most Seek Help
Most who break free do not go it completely alone, but you might, and that is ok too. What is important to know is that you don’t have to. There is no shame asking for and receiving help, just make sure you identify safe spaces to share. This might be a trusted friend, partner, family member, support group or therapist. Also, consider alternative therapies like yoga and meditation.
Here’s to breaking free and creating healthier patterns for you and the next generation.